Rules Of Engagement

On your wedding day, you will have a million things to worry about.  It’s inevitable that you will forget something or be overwhelmed and go into a panic.  In this situation, it’s easier to know what not to do then remember all the things that you should be doing.  Here are some basic things to remember to help the day go smoothly for you and your bride.

• Don’t worry about your boys. I know this one is hard and breaks with the tradition of the boys sticking together.  But trust me, your groomsmen will be able to take care of themselves.  If there is a problem, your wedding coordinator will be able to help them out and even if there isn’t a problem, they will get all the direction they need from her/him.  You will be tempted to hang out with them during the ceremony and you can do so in moderation.  Just remember you are to be by your bride’s side for 99% of the reception.  Ignoring them on the big day will be good practice for marriage.
• Don’t be late. This is a big one and is surprisingly hard to do.  Provide yourself with an ample amount of time to get ready in case anything goes wrong.  Normally, it probably takes you 15 minutes to get ready (or if you’re a douche, an hour).  Double however long it normally takes you in order to make room for those inevitable emergencies.  Your tie is missing?  Need last minute insoles for those shoes?  Got it covered, I provided myself 3 hours to get ready.  Another good idea is to make use of your best man in this situation.  If you happen to need something that isn’t available without a drive, send your best man.  Better for him to be stuck in a traffic jam than you.  My husband was almost late to our wedding because he HAD to have a burger from Sonic.  They don’t even have good burgers.  Avoid being late at all costs.
• Don’t be hung-over. This is for obvious reasons.  You want to be fully alert and aware of what is going on during your wedding.  You don’t want to be worried about how much your head hurts or where the nearest trash can is.  For anymore proof on why getting drunk the night before your wedding is a bad idea, go see The Hangover immediately.  Even if you have no plans of getting married, ever…go see The Hangover.
• Don’t ignore the wedding planner. It’s crazy how much wedding planners are in control of such a large amount of people.  They are also on top of everything and bring their staff to assist you and make sure your wedding day is flawless.  These people know what they are doing so use that to your advantage.  Getting a little parched before the ceremony begins? Your wedding planner is all over it.  At one of our meetings before the wedding, my coordinator said, “on the wedding day, don’t make eye contact with me unless you need me.  If we make eye contact, I will come running.” Their goal is to take all your stress away on your big day so you can relax.  Let them do their job!
• Don’t hold your emotions back. I’m not really into guys that cry, at all.  But on your wedding day, your bride wants to see some tears.  Even if the tear doesn’t leave your eye, at least be ok with tearing up a little and showing how much the day means to you.  This is not to say that you need to force emotion at all.  But don’t feel like because you are in front of a bunch of people (including all your boys) that you have to try to hide your emotions.  Not that guys do that…

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