Comments on: Wedding Registry: Stop the Abuse http://www.wheretogetengaged.com/rules-of-engagement/2009/06/wedding-registry-stop-the-abuse/ Tue, 16 Mar 2010 11:48:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Sky http://www.wheretogetengaged.com/rules-of-engagement/2009/06/wedding-registry-stop-the-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-57 Sky Thu, 11 Jun 2009 18:18:48 +0000 http://www.wheretogetengaged.com/rules-of-engagement/?p=98#comment-57 I think that's a good idea Robby! I think there is definitely a classy way to do the gift registry. Because there are guests that are hell bent on getting you a gift and if they get you something you won't use, it's just a waste of money. So I think there is also an upside to the registry tradition. But I think Melissa is right that too many people just expect a gift no matter what. Thanks for the comments! I think that’s a good idea Robby! I think there is definitely a classy way to do the gift registry. Because there are guests that are hell bent on getting you a gift and if they get you something you won’t use, it’s just a waste of money. So I think there is also an upside to the registry tradition. But I think Melissa is right that too many people just expect a gift no matter what. Thanks for the comments!

]]> By: Robby http://www.wheretogetengaged.com/rules-of-engagement/2009/06/wedding-registry-stop-the-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-56 Robby Thu, 11 Jun 2009 14:07:29 +0000 http://www.wheretogetengaged.com/rules-of-engagement/?p=98#comment-56 What about this solution - create a registry, but don't list it anywhere and only give it to people if they specifically request for your registry or gift ideas? This way it's not presumptuous and doesn't make people feel like it's their entry ticket, but it's there if they need genuine assistance in getting the right gift? For my wedding, we're going to do gift registries, but I think you can do it in a classy way that doesn't come off as greedy, lol. I think it depends on your wedding guests and how many guests are big gift-givers - it's a case-by-case basis... Just my 2 cents! :) What about this solution – create a registry, but don’t list it anywhere and only give it to people if they specifically request for your registry or gift ideas? This way it’s not presumptuous and doesn’t make people feel like it’s their entry ticket, but it’s there if they need genuine assistance in getting the right gift? For my wedding, we’re going to do gift registries, but I think you can do it in a classy way that doesn’t come off as greedy, lol. I think it depends on your wedding guests and how many guests are big gift-givers – it’s a case-by-case basis… Just my 2 cents! :)

]]> By: Melissa http://www.wheretogetengaged.com/rules-of-engagement/2009/06/wedding-registry-stop-the-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-55 Melissa Thu, 11 Jun 2009 09:32:33 +0000 http://www.wheretogetengaged.com/rules-of-engagement/?p=98#comment-55 We (DF and I) have discussed the idea of a registry. He doesn't want to have one because he feels that if people give us a gift, we will use it because they (may) have spent a lot of time choosing something specifically for us etc. I don't want one because a) what he said, and ... b) it's rude to dictate what people give us IF they CHOOSE to give anything - we shouldn't expect a gift just because we are getting married. Yes, it's generally a gift giving occasion and I know there will be people who do give a gift, but for the others, I don't want to make them feel like their entry ticket to our wedding is a nice big gift we have chosen. We (DF and I) have discussed the idea of a registry. He doesn’t want to have one because he feels that if people give us a gift, we will use it because they (may) have spent a lot of time choosing something specifically for us etc. I don’t want one because
a) what he said, and …

b) it’s rude to dictate what people give us IF they CHOOSE to give anything – we shouldn’t expect a gift just because we are getting married. Yes, it’s generally a gift giving occasion and I know there will be people who do give a gift, but for the others, I don’t want to make them feel like their entry ticket to our wedding is a nice big gift we have chosen.

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